Five months into my sojourn in this island city, every morning unfolds a breathtaking panorama from the 36th floor of my apartment. The entirety of Colombo stretches before me – a tapestry of apartments, villas, and the iconic Lotus Tower, standing tall as the city’s landmark. Its reflection dances on the nearby lake, bringing the metropolis to life in vivid hues.

As evening descends, I find myself contemplating the solitude within the open expanse of my skyward-facing apartment. A recurring question echoes in the quiet: Am I alone? The inquiry gains profound significance, particularly during holidays when the air is filled with the joyous revelry of others.

Undoubtedly, I, too, grapple with waves of loneliness, especially when thoughts of my distant children and loved ones pervade my mind. When was the last time I enjoyed an extended vacation with my kids? This reality resonates with many, as surveys indicate an increased sense of isolation during festive periods.

Yet, each time I gaze upon the glittering cityscape and the expansive sky, teeming with untold stories of life’s joys, a revitalizing energy courses through me. Standing on the balcony, absorbing the vibrant tapestry of life, and knowing that loved ones are merely a phone call away, I rediscover the profound beauty inherent in life.

However…Let’s not pretend or make false claims that we have never experienced the pangs of loneliness. It is perfectly acceptable to acknowledge and embrace this emotion instead of suppressing it out of fear that others might poke fun. Loneliness is just a feeling, and by being mindful of it, we can gain insights into our current needs.

In my moments of solitude, I find solace in thinking about the warmth my friends provide, lifting my spirits. It’s heartening to reflect on the diverse circle of friends and colleagues in my life, each with their unique stories and holiday plans. Despite the physical distance or busy schedules, these connections underscore the richness of relationships.

Among them is Ashfa, eagerly awaiting holidays to spend time with her family. Then there’s Lathif, a young colleague who assists me at work, reminiscent of my son. Currently recovering at home with his loving family, he serves as a reminder of the bonds we hold dear. Additionally, there is Ajith, my guardian in Sri Lanka, who recently embarked on a journey to Nuwara Eliya with his family.

Udaya, caught up in family affairs in Gampaha, has promised to visit me with his girls, though the timing remains uncertain.

In the midst of it all, Captain Ruwan is soaring through the skies, celebrating Christmas. A discerning professional who critically evaluates my ideas , he remains a steadfast and supportive colleague. On the flip side, Captain Marlon, whom I met later due to his demanding flying schedule, is a kind soul reveling in Christmas festivities with his family.

The thought of Priyanthi always brings a smile to my face. May be Busy with her cat and dog, she exemplifies a form of self-love and cherishing one’s life. Even Najath, who once directed me to step out, is immersed in holiday joy with his family in kandy.

Then there is Ramzy, our CFO, ever-ready with a phone call. With a small baby at home, perhaps he is relishing a change of pace. Shaheer, a friend as close as family, recently assisted me in recharging my mobile, though I forgot to inquire about his holiday plans. Indika, the newest member of our FITS family, is celebrating Christmas and holidays with his parents in Kandy. And there’’s always my Appae. Our chairman, a reliable pillar of support, is likely out of town.

As for me, alone in this moment, the feeling of being surrounded by people, the assurance that everyone is near, instills the confidence to embrace the solitude.

It is crucial to recognize that it is okay to feel lonely. Rather than pushing it away, acknowledging loneliness as just a feeling can provide valuable insights. Every emotion carries important information, and being present with loneliness allows for a deeper understanding of one’s needs. To stay grounded in such moments, realizing that there are numerous people in our lives, albeit not physically close due to circumstances, reinforces the idea that we are not truly alone. Shifting focus towards gratitude, acknowledging the love, support, and connections currently present, can significantly alleviate the sense of lacking during such moods.

Combating loneliness can be achieved by extending a helping hand to others during the holidays. Following the advice of psychologists, engaging in activities such as distributing meals at a local community center or assisting neighborhood kids with decorating can be instrumental in overcoming loneliness. Being around individuals who may lack companionship not only helps you but also fosters a sense of belonging and contributes to a more connected community during the festive season.

Identifying sources of joy is a simple yet powerful strategy. Whether it’s an evening in a nearby coffee shop, a leisurely stroll in nature, pursuing hobbies, immersing yourself in a good book, or enjoying a favorite TV show, these activities can uplift your spirits. Ultimately, connecting with yourself mindfully and intentionally fostering self-love are crucial for maintaining well-being during the holiday season when you find yourself alone.

As I scroll through the chats I have had with my loved ones, I observe young kids playing around in a carefree manner. It dawns on me that, regardless of my physical location, I am not truly alone. The realization hits home – how can I be lonely at all when surrounded by the warmth and connections of those who are dear to me?

About Author: Reena Rahman is the Vice President, Reforms at FitsAir and is also an aviation expert with over 23 years of experience.